San Francisco Meeting:
Wednesday, October 16, 2013 @ 7:00 PM
Location: The Grove (3rd and Mission)
This one goes out to all the introverts out there ... and those struggling to understand introverts. As a natural introvert who has been striving for years to become an extrovert, I'm already getting pulled deep into Quiet by Susan Cain. A fantastic adventure into the psychology of personalities and how our seemingly lesser desired quiet counterparts are critical in the function of society. Here's a snip-it of the Amazon review for her 4.5-star book:
"At least one-third of the people we know are introverts. They are the ones who prefer listening to speaking; who innovate and create but dislike self-promotion; who favor working on their own over working in teams. It is to introverts—Rosa Parks, Chopin, Dr. Seuss, Steve Wozniak—that we owe many of the great contributions to society... In Quiet, Susan Cain argues that we dramatically undervalue introverts and shows how much we lose in doing so..." >read more
Here is Susan Cain's wonderful Ted Talk, The Power of Introverts, that inspired the selection of this book:
Here are some questions I typically like to ask to lead the discussion:
- What was your greatest take-away from the book?
- What actionable items have you given yourself as a result?
- Is there anything that you disagreed with?
- What books have you read that were similar?
- Any additional thoughts?
I've listed the 20 questions to ask yourself when ranking your introverted-ness below in the comments. Take a look, rank yourself, and share the results if you are so inclined!
If you couldn't make the meeting, please include your questions or comments in the comments section below.
Book Club Notes
The book club meeting this month was very well attended. While the majority of the attendees were self-proclaimed introverts, we did have a representative or two from the extrovert club. Turns out that several of us also associate with the "ambivert" designation.
The major talking point of this evening was the validation that this book provided to an introverts life. It makes you realize that you aren't weird for having the feelings that you do, that there are many people in the same boat, and that this feeling of having to be extroverted to be successful is a phenomenon that was created not that long ago. If only we could have everyone, extroverts and introverts alike, have a read of this insightful book, we all would be a little bit better understood.
Some of the other talking points from the evening are highlighted below:
Cultural Influence: Some cultures are certainly more prone to being introverted and for encouraging introversion. In Asia, quietness and humility are sought after traits in friends. An introverted person described in the book even moved back to China to be more successful in business.
Finding Balance in the Office: People agreed strongly that open work-spaces and collaborative work are not always the answer to driving the creative process. Finding the balance of being able to work alone and being a strong team player is very important.
Free Trade Agreement: If a relationship or career requires you to get out of your comfort zone, set contracts with yourself that provides a trade-off. For instance, go to one or two professional social events a week, recognize that you did so, and then don't feel guilty about deciding to stay home the remainder of the evenings.
We went on to discuss many commonalities among the group along with the impact on things such as social media, enjoying movies, and other day-to-day activities. It was truly an enjoyable evening. If I happened to miss anything, please feel free to add it below.
Some book recommendations from the group that will be considered for future selections (cast your vote below if you so choose):